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Tweak says, "what was my point again?"

Hestia Abbott (eagleofdelphi) wrote,
@ 2008-02-01 14:36:00

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j: private, j: to dominic, journal_entries

Hestia's Journal (XXXI) - Wednesday, 29 December, 1999
[Private to Dominic]
Do you trust me?
[/Private]

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	Private to Hestia regretfulde 2008-02-01 07:39 pm UTC (link)
	Of course...but don't I get to know what this is about? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 07:43 pm UTC (link)
	~~damn~~ What makes you think it's about anything? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 07:45 pm UTC (link)
	Because people just don't get to ask such things out of the blue without having a reason for it. Now, what's behind it? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 07:49 pm UTC (link)
	I just wanted to know! It's very hard to figure out how we stand on certain things! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 07:52 pm UTC (link)
	Well I love you and you love me and trust is normally involved in it. But I am NOT trusting you now when you say that's all there is to it. are you alright? the baby... ~~Do I need to call a healer?~~ (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 07:54 pm UTC (link)
	I know, but there's different levels of trust. You trust an Auror with certain things and a girlfriend with certain things and wife with certain things and all those things can be very different! Everything's fine, I promise. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 07:56 pm UTC (link)
	But you're an auror and a girlfriend and the woman I'd love to have for my wife, so I trust you with nearly everything. Nearly because you're making NO sense just now. If it's not you then what is this about? Is it Hannah? Did I do something to upset her again? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 07:58 pm UTC (link)
	But that's not true, a wife would be a stepmother too and there'd be trust involved there your girlfriend might not have. I mean, you're going to have to trust me with the baby. It's half mine, it's a requirement. So I know I'm trusted there. But Hannah's different, she's not half mine. No, no one's upset either. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 08:01 pm UTC (link)
	So you're questioning me from the role of a stepmother. Now really, what is it you're asking if I trust you with Hannah about? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 08:04 pm UTC (link)
	But I'm not her stepmother, that's why I asked. I told you it's very hard to figure out how certain things are. I'm just trying to establish some boundaries! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 08:08 pm UTC (link)
	Hannah...Hestia...I... I don't want to find out from someone else that you've kept something about Hannah from me. I trust you with her but that trust relies on you sharing things with me, just as you would expect me to share something that I knew about our new baby with you if I found out first. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 08:12 pm UTC (link)
	You're a prat, Abbott. Okay, but what if she wants to share things with me alone? Am I supposed to violate her trust and tell you too? Isn't that what evil stepmothers do? Do mothers do that? Did Teaghan do that? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Re: Private to Hestia/Dom.

regretfulde
2008-02-01 08:23 pm UTC (link)

Well I'm YOUR prat, Jones, so think on that.

Hannah was so young then that secrets were hardly required. I blame Macmillan for all of the secrets.

The way I would look at it is this. If ti were the reverse, were Hannah OUR child or YOUR child and I knew something, I was free to act on something, would you think it was big enough that you would want to know about it?

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Re: Private to Hestia/Dom.

eagleofdelphi
2008-02-01 08:32 pm UTC (link)

I know you are, but that's no excuse for guilt trips. Do you treat all pregnant woman like that or just me?

Stop it, you're being unreasonable. You had plenty of secrets long before Ernie came along, it's only because of him in some situations that there's less now.

That would depend. If the reason my child wasn't telling me something was because I was impossible or murderous or unreasonable, then I think I wouldn't want to know because I wouldn't want to end up unreasonable or murderous or impossible.

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	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 08:45 pm UTC (link)
	Fine. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 08:53 pm UTC (link)
	Are you mad at me now? See, I told you, guilt trips aren't nice. I didn't actually mean it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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regretfulde
2008-02-01 08:56 pm UTC (link)

I wasn't trying to guilt trip you, but I don't know WHAT to do. Being a parent is like groping blindly for a needle in a haystack in the dark without knowing that you KNOW something that is enough to make me murderous or worse.

You have to trust me too you know. I don't like things hidden from me when it comes to Hannah, and I won't like things hidden from me when it comes to this baby.

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eagleofdelphi
2008-02-01 09:02 pm UTC (link)

Well, is there a middle ground? Is there a compromise where I can tell you one part without sharing everything, so I'm not breaking Hannah's trust, yet you know what you need to? Or do I make you promise to say or do things a specific way, then tell Hannah you've promised and get her permission what to tell then tell you? Do I make Hannah tell you and say out of it? And I don't mean in specific situations, I mean in any situation ever over our lives.

I'm really, really at a loss here, Dominic.

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	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 09:13 pm UTC (link)
	I don't know...it's just not nice to feel left out when it comes to your own child and someone you love as a wife. I am worried and unhappy and I don't like it. I do trust you, and it is your call, but I don't like the thought of you keeping anything from me when it comes to the children. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 09:16 pm UTC (link)
	Dominic, where are you? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 09:17 pm UTC (link)
	Home in my office. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. eagleofdelphi 2008-02-01 09:18 pm UTC (link)
	Don't go anywhere, I'm coming over. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Private to Hestia/Dom. regretfulde 2008-02-01 09:24 pm UTC (link)
	Alright. (Reply to this) (Parent)