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Hestia Abbott (eagleofdelphi) wrote,
@ 2008-05-22 17:48:00

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Hestia's Journal (XXXIV) - Thursday, 27 January, 2000; early evening
[Private to Dominic]
We have a problem.
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	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-22 10:12 pm UTC (link)
	I thought that you would have, but-- The Centre too? She fought so hard to work there. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-22 10:17 pm UTC (link)
	Which is why we have a problem, Dominic. She's giving up every reason she has to go out in the world. She hasn't even gone outside. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-22 10:24 pm UTC (link)
	I thought that we were doing the right thing, keeping her home and safe, but I always just assumed that eventually she'd resume her daily routine after enough time had passed. What are we going to do? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-22 10:55 pm UTC (link)
	We were doing the right thing, keeping her safe. I don't think this is just about us or what we did. She isn't even baking anymore, Dominic. Or singing and dancing in her room. Or talking to her friends even when they try and come to see her. She sleeps during the day like she's exhausted. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-22 11:02 pm UTC (link)
	I don't like this, Hestia, I don't like this at all. She's alive, and she's safe, but she's not happy, and that's not acceptable. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-22 11:03 pm UTC (link)
	I just want her to be Hannah again. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-22 11:05 pm UTC (link)
	So do I. She was so full of life before, and now it seems that she's barely living. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-22 11:11 pm UTC (link)
	We need to do something before it gets any worse. I just don't want to make her do something that's going to upset her. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-22 11:22 pm UTC (link)
	I know what you mean. We can't force her into it, but we can't allow her to just stay here either. Perhaps if we all went somewhere, but if we stayed close, it would be enough of a push? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 12:09 am UTC (link)
	Maybe. Where were you thinking? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 12:11 am UTC (link)
	Anywhere. Perhaps even dinner at a small restaurant? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 12:23 am UTC (link)
	I was thinking somewhere more secure than just a restaurant, but I guess that would work. I just don't want her to feel overwhelmed. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 12:28 am UTC (link)
	Neither do I. What were you thinking about? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 12:47 am UTC (link)
	I don't know, going away somewhere overnight, a spot that's not too busy and can be secured easily. You know, like camping or something. Maybe it's too much. Maybe we should just go visit my dad. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 12:59 am UTC (link)
	Visiting your father would work well, as it would be out of the 'safety' of our house, but not somewhere that she could panic. Plus, she could easily keep in touch with Macmillan through the journal network. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 01:01 am UTC (link)
	Oh, right, like we're going to be able to do this and leave him behind. Are you feeling all right? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 01:07 am UTC (link)
	And like your father would deal well with us dragging along the boyfriend of your fiance's child. It won't take that long, he can cool his heels for a bit. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 01:42 am UTC (link)
	I think he'll like him much better than he liked my boyfriend before he was my fiance but after he was the father of my child. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 01:46 am UTC (link)
	He'll think I'm running a brothel if I start bringing my daughter's boyfriends along as though they're part of the family already. And it's different between you and I than it is between them, you know that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 01:50 am UTC (link)
	I think I know my father just a little better than you do and he'll like Ernie. Oh, and how's that? Short of them having a baby together, it's not much different at all. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Re: Hestia/Dominic.

regretfulde
2008-05-23 01:57 am UTC (link)

He might but...

Hestia, is it really healthy for her to be with him all day every day? I'm not saying that we should break them up or anything like that, but the way that she reacted when she found out he was in the Order, the way that YOU reacted, only emphasises my point. She needs to have a life apart from him, even just a small facet of it. Have they really reached the point in their relationship where they can't spend two days apart?

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Re: Hestia/Dominic.

eagleofdelphi
2008-05-23 02:00 am UTC (link)

Even if you're right, which you're not but we're not going to argue this right now, do you really want to try and make a case about this right now, when she needs every bit of support to get better? If you take away even a small part of her sense of safety at the same time you're encouraging her to do something she might be afraid to do, you're going to hurt her.

And leave my reactions out of this. Whether you like it or not, you're stuck with this kid as far as my feelings go, let alone Hannah's.

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Re: Hestia/Dominic.

regretfulde
2008-05-23 02:13 am UTC (link)

It may not be the time to do this now, but this concerns me. If she's not working at the Centre or Hogwarts anymore, she'll be sitting around the house with you and me and him. He may be the one for now, Hestia, but if he's not THE ONE, if he tires of her or gets killed, that will hurt her too much.

He can come with us to your father's house, if you are certain he won't mind, but eventually she's going to have to do something that doesn't involve him.

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Re: Hestia/Dominic.

eagleofdelphi
2008-05-23 02:17 am UTC (link)

What do you want, Dominic? For them to get married to prove to you they mean this? Not everyone needs to date or love several people before they find THE ONE. All you have to do is watch them to know this isn't teenage infatuation. They're adults, and they're proving that every day by being together without tearing forward toward marriage and children like it's a race.

Yes, she will, like going back to work, which is what we're working for here.

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	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 02:30 am UTC (link)
	Of course I don't want them to get married. Even were they married the Macmillan boy could still get killed. I just think it would be more healthy if she had some sort of life outside of this boy. So how are we going to approach her about this without frightening her? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Re: Hestia/Dominic.

eagleofdelphi
2008-05-23 04:01 am UTC (link)

Dominic, no matter who she loved, they could end up dead. And I AGREE, I just don't think having a like to the exclusion of him is the idea. Again, this is what we are trying to accomplish, her having her interests and jobs back.

Simple. We blame it all on Dad. We'll tell her he really wants us to come stay, that the family is all getting together. And then I'll make him pretend he really did it and make certain the rest of my family is there.

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	Re: Hestia/Dominic. regretfulde 2008-05-23 04:28 am UTC (link)
	She just can't take much more now, Hestia. You know it, I know it...I know there's always a chance someone could be harmed, but I'd rest much easier at night if she were dating a Herbology researcher instead of him. And your father won't mind that we are using him to make a little white lie for her? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Hestia/Dominic. eagleofdelphi 2008-05-23 05:17 am UTC (link)
	Until one of his plants strangled him at work. Of course not, I'll owl him now. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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